What happens after death? No one knows, and never will we discover the meaning of life after death. However, it's what we do in the present that matters.
Still, death changes us all. If someone close to you suddenly passes away, you feel this sudden strike of an inevitable force to your face. There are no happy endings when it comes to death, but we could still make something cheerful about it.
When my best friend's mother died last summer, I was struck with grief. She was diagnosed with cancer, but it only took her life away recently when we least expected it. My best friend's mother holds a special place in my heart as she was there to take care of us since we were little kids.
She's like an aunt to me or even a second mother. Her death caused great sadness, and my best friend and I were left emotionally unstable afterwards.
We had to move on to the Christian funeral since they were religious people. I'm not a staunch believer in religion, but I still respected the beliefs of others.
With everything shaken and cleared, there were a few things I learned after I attended my late aunt's funeral. Here are some of the life-learning experiences I've discovered after the funeral.
Grief Isn't Easy
Everyone already knows that grief is one of life's worst experiences. But you could only feel its sadness once you're in the moment itself. Grieving isn't pleasant, no doubt, but it's a truly sad experience if you experience it firsthand.
Everyone Grieves in Their Own Way
We all have our own methods of grieving. Some people want to be kept alone in solitude for long periods, while others need to be with others to comfort their sadness. I, for one, am a mixture of both. I needed personal space, but I also required the comfort of others.
I also needed to be with my best friend at her side as much as possible. She took her mother's death the hardest, despite the cancer being predictable and whatnot. Even when you expect someone to pass away, it doesn't make the pain any less severe.
Religion Helps Grief
Sometimes, religion helps grief. We all want to believe that our loved ones will go to heaven once they pass away. Even if you're a non-believer, you must respect those that find comfort in religion if their loved ones passed away. After all, we all need to find comfort, one way or the other.
Whether you're attending a Catholic or free-thinker funeral, religion (or lack thereof) will help someone in need.
Time is Gold
After everything I've went through, I realised that time is the most precious gift of all. You can obtain money and materials, but you cannot regain lost time. When my aunt passed away, my best friend regretted not spending enough time with her. For that reason, I promised to spend time with my loved ones as much as possible.
If you're expecting someone to pass away, you must find a funeral director in Singapore who will help you. I recommend going to Eternal Life for free-thinker or Christian funeral services in Singapore.
